On Quote... Love our face babes!!

Oh I love this. Sing with me babe!!

"I want to grow old without face lift. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I have made."

-Marilyn Monroe 

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On Quote... It's too heavy, let it go

Free our mind, body and heart for new opportunities and better living.

Throw a stone, share it or shout it out.

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Loving The One I Hate

I was looking at the man sitting beside me in our study room. He was quiet but hands on his works seriously. The atmosphere was calm in the cooling rainy night. I was attracted by his seriousness and felt loved by him beside. I seldom attracted by him. Then, I hold his left hand into me and rested my head on his shoulder before giving him a kiss on his cheek. His smile earned another gentle kiss on his lips.

This is the man I married for 2 years plus. He’s not very handsome but still good looking, not attractive enough which makes his sudden attractiveness precious. He’s not romantic at all but is a good husband. And he's an easy going person actually. I love this man but I hate him too. Normal or abnormal, this is how it is.

Why do I hate him?

He’s an emotional insensitive person. I got hurt by his unintentional hurtful action and words and left 'time' to solve it which I need to heal by myself. 90 percent of my words to him evaporated, sigh. He leaves germs, stains and rubbish all the time that cleanliness-is-a-major-thing me have to clean+clean+clean while mumbling to myself. Another thing that most women do not like is the husband comes home late every night and buddy with his stuff. This is a piss off! Additionally, 9 out of 10 are empty promises and often force me to do things I’m unwilling to or dislike.

Well, all these may not be big deals but the accumulation of angers is a mental torture.

But why did I married this man?

Really, I don’t know how to explain. We are attached to each other. Despite all the anger, I will put him into my decisions so does him, I still love him. Although he’s so busy most of the time he’d be beside me when I needed him. I like to share my ups with him and his appearance could always comfort me when I’m in downs. We hold each other into sleep every night. We grew our love from the beginning and we are still growing it every day. He gives me security.

We had been through a lot throughout our relationship. He told me he will not leave me in his life, I believe he won’t. He’s working hard for our living and future. He’s a responsible husband. And I’m glad I have him, fortunate to have a good husband and we love each other.

I tolerated his messiness while he tolerates my impatience and irritable attitude. We are not perfect after all! Sure there'll be disagreements/arguments in marriages. But at the end, we make each other smile.

I cannot explain the reason of marrying him nor expressing orderly. This is the man I want to hold with, this is the man I love. This is what I know, for sure. 

Do I love him? Yes I love him. Do I hate him more? Hmmm… maybe just a little… J Hate him mustn't mean shouldn't love him. 

PS: It's not us in the pictures. We seldom take pictures and I try not to make you all sad with our skills J

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On Quote... Dream and Imagination

"The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination."

ALBERT EINSTEIN 

I always love this. Some people are stuck at somewhere because of lack of imagination. Find the time to daydream and unleash your imagination, you may find your potential there. Imagination leads your view to what your life could be. 

Never underestimate the power it could bring, the future it could lead.

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“Because no one does that!”

It was a night I read a news that a group of 4 female tourists had topless sunbath at one of Port Dickson's beach which viewed as an offended behavior in the country. I shared it to my mom and we had a conversation:

Mom: Why must topless?

Me: It’s common for them. Maybe they don’t know it’s offensive here.

Mom: No one was topless there except them!

Me: Well, not all will go topless. Like the beaches in other countries where a lot of tourists visit, some topless some not. So maybe that’s what they thought as well.

Mom: They should have noticed no one does that there!

Well, Malaysia is a conservative country.

I didn’t continue the conversation because it will be endless with the same says. But I murmured in my mind that “If no one start a thing, who will?”

I don’t mean that everyone should start topless sunbath. It's the attitude of 'do nothing everyone else don't'. Most of the people do not have the courage to do ‘the different’ because no one does that and thus, ‘the different’ will not happen if no one starts.

My view of it is, it can be an observation of surroundings; it can be an opportunity as well.

First of all, why no one start?

Fear – the top stepping stone of moving forward. Fear of failure, fear of embarrassment, fear of the unknown, fear of disappointment, fear of judgment, fear of rejection.

No encouragement – everyone tells you not to do it and the reason they can give cause your initial courage demolished.

Laziness/Unwillingness - well, the words explain it all.

Fear is unreal, encouragement comes from within, laziness is... sigh. Things will not change until someone starts it. If no one invented the wheel we still walk to destination; if no one invented compass we do not know the exact direction; if no one invented internet you won’t be here. We will still live in stone era if no one invent and innovate. Here are a few life examples of ‘a start’:

Walt Disney – oh the wonderful, magical Walt Disney which created cartoons, film studios, Disney land, Mickey Mouse, cartoon princes and princesses. I love Disney!

Bill Gates -co-founder and chairman of Microsoft. With his partners he went through loses for few years but they didn’t give up, they learned from the mistakes and continue until Microsoft empire created.    

Abraham Lincoln – slavery might still be legal if Abraham Lincoln did not fight for it. He was brave to fight for human liberty which back then was not accepted by ‘high level citizen’.

Hey, do you know why they are so famous? Because no one did that and they started it and with courage and determination they are now (was for Abraham Lincoln) the pioneer/leader.

They started something new, failed few times and got back again until succeeded. Dare to dream and fear will be weaken; encourage yourself if no one does. If you don’t start you wouldn’t know what awaits you. If you don’t give up, you’ll be an inventor or innovator.

“Things do not change, we change!” 

by Henry David Thoreau

Simplest yet, if a group hangout is drowning in a complete silent, you sparks in some fun by saying "Hey! Let's go bbq tonight!"or "Let's go to the beach!", then, "when, where, who else joining" will kill the silence.

Be initiative and confident! If you have a dream, make it real. If you have an idea, start to work it out! If there’s an opportunity, don’t let it go. If no one moves, take the initiative.

“There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there’s only scarcity of resolve to make it happen.”

By Wayne Dyer

Are you a follower or an initiator?

Notey: The idea here is to encourage the motivation of good. Illegal, harmful ideas.. OH NO NO PLEASE..

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16 Activities for A Different Weekend

IT’S FRIDAAAAAAAAYYYYY!

That’s not the main thing but “WEEKEND IS COMING TO SEE ME BABE!” is the main point.

So excited, so happy, lazy in work (it’s pretty normal), thinking “I can finally have my time… it’s fun time. ‘Work’, I shall leave you alone oh yeah!…..” (it’s very pretty normal too).

So there’s a question to hit - what’s your plan for weekend? Hmm… Brunch, tea, cinema, shopping, dating, sleep all the way, housework, overtime!!???, work at home!!??? Again? Well, let’s say have something ‘lively’ and give yourself a break shall we?

There’re so many weekends but life and time are short. Here’s a list of weekend plans I challenge you to do:

1.       Go touch the summer/autumn/spring water!

No more café hangout, pub, bar nope. Get yourself wet by going to the pool, lagoon, lake wherever watery you like. If you feel hot, jump into the water; if you feel cold, pool volleyball game anyone?

2.       Dare to camp in the woods? You better are an experience camper or bring one.

Touch the nature. You can free your imagination and experiment in there. Like horror then imagine horror. Like romance then bring your honey (as in human. If it’s not human then….. it’s fine as you like) and sweet warm in the woods. Don’t forget your compass and emergency box set.

3.       Go to the hills and shout! Go to several hills if you’re crazy enough.

Depressed? Words cannot say? Then go and do a BIG SHOUT OUT from one hill to another. You’ll probably satisfied and forget everything by your exhaustion by fifth hill. Rude words, harsh words just let it out. I don’t think there’ll be a policeman to summon you. Just, don't jump, don't fall.

4.       Roller Coaster roll your stress out

Alternative of hills shouting. Roll and roll and roll and AAARRRRRRRHHHHHH!!!!!

5.       Free Hug hugs at the street.

Sometimes, a hug is all what we need. Generously offer your hugs to the people on the street and in return they can hug you back. Spread the love.

6.       Zorbing

Rolling is somehow fun if it’s not dangerous.  Either from the hill, on a wide ground or on the water, roll it and have fun!

7.       Waterfall/Beach Kayaking or Surfing

Either one, play safe while enjoying and water and the sun.

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8.       Say I love you

Put away your mobile, look up from your social media and personally tell your parents, sisters, brothers, lovers, friends, whoever you care the love you have to them. Never wait to say “I love you”.

9.       10 minutes of crazy jumping and running around at home

It's not necessary to jump in the club, you can do it at home! This crazy I mean is really a CRAAAAZY jump and run. It helps releasing your stress and anxiety and the result will be phenomenally awesome. Invite someone else into the fun.

10.   Sweat like you’ve ever had

However you‘re going to do, sweat your toxic out! Imagine a construction worker working under the sun and sweat like hell. Yes that sweat not the sexy masculine body, it’s how they sweat like they just caught in the rain. It could be unbearable at a certain level. But trust me, you’ll sweat out your toxic, lose fat and gain a soft smooth skin. I did this before in a week time. In a tropical country (Malaysia) I switched off my fan and air-conditioner (saved my electricity bill), stayed at home had hot food, drank hot water, the weather was extremely hot. I was like melting (but of course I won’t get myself heatstroke at the meantime) but the result was -> I felt less lighter and my skin is so smooth since then. Try it, you'll love the result.

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11.   When was your last picnic?

Often it’s a dinner potluck but why not picnic potluck? Either it’s a simple easy picnic or good old fashioned posh picnic. Make or buy some sandwiches, cakes or any that you can come out of. Enjoy the nature and fresh air with your family or friends.

12.   Time to propose?

Is it time? Are you ready?

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13.   Off the road

Give your car a rest. The road is always busy. Try biking at the beach or Go Kart, don't crash.

14.   Short cross state trip

A sudden soonest flight away from home to explore is kind of impractical (unless you’re rich to have private jet).  In Malaysia, Malacca Jonker Street is always happening in the weekends; or a forest stay in Seremban in TheShorea or The Dusun.

15.   Candle light dinner and romantic dance at home

What can I say more? It’s so romantic, lovely and memorable.

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16.   Unusual date. Just two of you or in a group

Create a memorable one by an unusual date. For example, a simple walk or outing wearing funny and cute glasses, wig, funny hat or headband. It will be fun and interesting, don’t mind about the public’s eyes on you, this is where the funny part is and they don't mind to be entertained and inspired.

Are you planning to do one of the activities listed? What else interesting you’ll do?  

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Your Imperfection Completes You

"My boobs are too small I want to get bigger one by plastic surgery."

"I don't like my thin lips. It will be perfect if it's like Angelina Jolie's."

"Ah! Girls now are carrying luxury handbags but I cannot afford one. I feel shame out there among the trendy girls."

"I have to be cute because it's the 'thing' everyone likes now."

"I cannot go into public without makeup."

I often heard my girlfriends commented. Following trend, guys commented too.

"I'm too short! I cannot find a girlfriend."

"I don't have six packs. I'm not wearing that swimsuit like tight T-shirt." Gosh.. In fact, he's quite fit and the T-shirt wasn't tight at all which pretty much suited him.

"Man I'm going to get a new car! Look at them with their high performance cars and handsome watches. Perfect package! I have none they are having."

In this century, fashion and trend show perfection, thus, imperfection alarmed. Humans' high conscious on imperfections neglected their true selves. Desire to be the-famous-him/her. Being pretty, handful of high technologies, high status and many more are what humans desire in this world. It could be break down into two categories:

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1. Beauty perfections and imperfections. Face, body figures, skin textures and tones are what men and women always aware of. The imperfect flat nose, big face, big thighs and etc. always depress them. Some even disgust them to the max. Because beauty has been standardized to narrowed high nose, thin like runway models (for women) or tanned masculine body with six packs (for men). Makeup became compulsory, it’s sometimes messy and tiring. However, you’ll feel free and well without it.
2. Lifestyle and material perfections and imperfections. Well, it has to be latest handphones that most features are not needed/unnecessary, new car that pulls up your debt, luxury watches and bags, trendy shoes that hurt, manager status that’s eating your soul everyday, wealthy impulsive lifestyle to show you are living good or better than others. They earn to get it and these materials absorb most or even all of their savings. A perfect package gives proud and confidence but they are depressed, majorly from the lifestyle and material perfections they are chasing. Souls are dead for the perfections.

“As machines become more and more efficient and perfect, so it will become clear that imperfection is the greatness of man.” 

By Ernst Fischer

"It’s common." They think. People are afraid of being incompatible lead common is what they are trying to be and hide what are shameful – their uncommon imperfections. They do not realize the ‘common’ they after will decay. Those nonspirituals will be replaced without appreciation. And ironically, imperfection perception yearn more beauty and material satisfaction, while, uniqueness extincting.

This reminds me of Korean girls. I cannot identify them, maybe I’m a dumb in identifying and they all look the same to me. Can you?

If everything and everyone is the same, what are you so special?

"Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it is better to absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring." 

By Marilyn Monroe.

Between men and women, a man finds something missing from a woman who appears perfect; a woman is bored of a man who she once thought he's perfect. The reason, imperfection.

You see, it's not empty but incomplete.

Embrace your imperfections.

Mirrors let you see you. Identify who you are, how you are. Despite all the imperfections you see and feel, ain’t others the same? No one is perfect. Flaws and holes in life make the unique you. Nick Vujicic (Australian Christian evangelist and motivational speaker born without four limbs) continues his life amazingly, why can’t us? Every successful man fell and messed up before they reach the destination. That’s what make them unique and memorable.

Personally me, one of my imperfections is I’m very hairy from top to toe, every inch pretty much than a lot of Malaysian men but I embrace it. A woman as hairy as me may feel disgusting, I did! People talked at my back. I got teased and felt shameful to stand out, covered myself, tried to get rid of it but didn’t work. My low self-esteem destructed me. I hated it and eager to pull my skin out. One day, I was inspired. This is me! I’m hairy but my hair did no harm, instead, it protected me from scratches. Kids had fun counting my hair (although always out of count, funny though). I was tired of covering anyways. If I cannot accept it how should I ask others to accept me? I’m different! Love myself first! That’s what I decided and now I’m free and confident. People I know within my circle, they don't care but to have joys with me.

Here’re some little tips on how to embrace your imperfections:

1.      Understand that humans are imperfect. We are created this way by God for His reasons.

2.       Learn to accept it, laugh at it. Empower the positive energy. You’re real and you’re better than ever.

3.       Make it as your strength. Either it’s good or bad, it’s unique. What you have and your experience would benefit you. If it's as minor as short neck, say "this neck supported me and I thank it. I still can wear neckless!"

“Usefulness is not impaired by imperfection. You can still drink from a chipped cup.” 

By Greta K. Nagel

4.     What is the purpose of your life? Work on it. Stay true and be confident heading your destination. What you have or how you do might not be perfect but you’ll feel real and comfortable at your destination. Others will see you as a perfect one. How do you think the successful celebrities are so being crazily admired?

“I'm not suggesting that the play is without fault; all my plays are imperfect, I'm rather happy to say - it leaves me something to do.” 

By Edward Albee

I would like to highlight that I’m not against plastic surgery, makeup nor trend and fashion. The point is, we should not be shame of our imperfections, focus on it and hide behind a mask. You can still change or makeup to enhance but not over the true you. Your true self is the most attractive and perfect. Not to say that be as messy as you could.

At the end, don’t judge and compare. Neither to yourself and others. Free yourself from the high standards. Everyone is unique. The path may be different but what you’re holding to achieve is unique so do your life will be great and memorable.

“We learn as much by others' failings as by their teachings. Examples of imperfection are just as useful for achieving perfection as are models of competence and perfection.” 

By Magdeleine Sable 

Outlook and package are shell, it'll break. Whereas, your true inner beauty shine from day to night till forever.

What do you think about imperfections? If you have the experience of overcoming  and embracing it please share by commenting below.

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